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Yes, Asian girls like white guys. It’s a fact. You may wonder why do Asian girls like white guys so much!
This is a common stereotype but still has some basis in our experience.
This plays out both online (check out our list of the top interracial dating sites if you want to know more) or in the real world.
Here are the top 10 reasons we have found to give you a better understanding of Asian women and yourself!
Why Do Asian Girls Like White Guys
The top 10:
There are more gentlemen among white guys than Asian guys.
In traditional Asian culture, the concept of “gentleman” doesn’t exist. Historically, there was no real gentleman in Asia, because in that part of the world, men were superior to women for thousands of years.
But in western countries, there are many more gentlemen everywhere, and Asian women are amazed by white guys who are real gentlemen, because they never had such beautiful experiences in their home countries.
Gentlemen look after women, care about others and are more classy in general.
In contrast, traditionally, Asian men expect women to be their maids and servants. A typical Asian man thinks he is the boss in the family, hence he deserves his wife’s respect and doesn’t need to respect his wife!
Asian men’s lack of respect leads to Asian women’s lack of interest.
Therefore, when Asian girls like white guys because they feel respected and looked after by you, of course they like you, white guys!
2. White men are more exotic, which arouses Asian women’s curiosity.
When you think Asian women are exotic, Asian women also think you are exotic at the same time! It’s a mutual feeling.
Some white guys have been to Asian countries. For instance, when you go to China, Chinese women look at you all the time, because they are curious about white guys.
Curiosity results in attention, and attention is the prerequisite of attraction.
You need to understand that as a white guy, you have a big advantage, i.e. your looks can really get Asian women’s attention, simply because you are western.
It’s not that Asian girls like white guys just because they are white (I’ve explained that in my previous articles). Anyway, you still need to remember that being white makes you different (at least on surface level).
If you learn something about the Asian aesthetic standards, you will see that the contemporary Asian culture considers a face with western features to be good-looking. There are so many Asian celebrities who look quite western (e.g. Leehom Wang, David Wu, Coco Lee, etc.)
Also, Asian women like to have fair skin, as evidenced by the “whitening” skin-care products they use ALL THE TIME. Almost every high-end cosmetics brand has at least one whitening range for Asian consumers, because whitening skin-care products are always the best-sellers in Asian countries.
As a result, as a white guy, you already have fair skin, so surely that’s an advantage.
3. White men are generally more loving, caring and understanding.
A lot of Asian men think they don’t need to show their loving and caring side, as long as they make a lot of money. But that’s so wrong.
Asian women need love and affection, not just money.
White guys seem to understand human dynamics better, so white guys tend to spend more time with their girlfriends, which makes white guys more loving and caring.
Asian women are attracted to qualities like these, because they don’t get it from Asian men.
White guys genuinely care about how their girlfriends feel, do fun and romantic activities with their women, and cuddle their girlfriends after having sex.
By contrast, Asian men believe their money and status are way more important than these kind gestures – that’s why Asian men are gradually losing Asian women’s favor.
Let’s have a close look at the sex scene (I know this is probably a bit of an exaggeration, but you’ll get the gist):
* An Asian man is having sex with an Asian woman (foreplay part) –
HIM: Pushes her head towards his private parts as quickly as possible.
HER: Has to do whatever she is told to do.
* A western man is having sex with an Asian woman (foreplay part) –
HIM: Starts to talk to her in a loving way an hour before sex.
HER: Really enjoys the connection.
HIM: The physical foreplay lasts for one hour.
HER: Ready to be penetrated and wants to be penetrated.
So the conclusion is: having sex with a western man is far more enjoyable than having sex with an Asian man who doesn’t understand how to do it properly.
4. White men’s endowment is greater.
Needless to say, white men are very lucky to have greater endowment than Asian men, and Asian men know it!
I’ve heard many Asian men complaining, “Oh, my god! I don’t feel confident. How can I compete with white guys in the bedroom?” Indeed, they are worried that their penises are too small.
If you have lived in Asia, you would know that condoms have different sizes in supermarkets and drugstores. For example, most condoms made in Japan are 52mm, whereas only a limited proportion of condoms are 55mm.
I know this probably sounds unfair and slightly obnoxious, but it’s a fact: Most Asian men only buy the smallest condoms.
A white erection can be nearly twice as big as an Asian erection.
5. White men are more worldly and experienced.
We know that most Asian men are good at math and are generally good students at school, but being a straight A student doesn’t make an Asian man more attractive later on in life.
Compared with Asian men, white men are more knowledgeable when it comes to what’s actually going on in the world, and usually white men have more experience in terms of travel. (I’m not saying this is a scientific rule; I mean it’s a likelihood.)
I know comparing men like this won’t make me more popular, yet the fact that we constantly avoid comparison means we are afraid of saying the brutal truth.
Therefore, I’ve decided not to say things that people want to hear; instead, I tell some ugly truths once in a while.
Indeed, being more worldly and experienced is incredibly attractive from Asian women’s perspective, because most Asian women value growth. If you demonstrate your love for knowledge and experiences, Asian women will like you more.
6. Asian girls like white guys because they enjoy a more stimulating lifestyle.
Many Asian women prefer white men because of the interesting lifestyle: white men have more hobbies, more interests and more fun things going on in life.
However, Asian men tend to be more boring – they are busy at work, busy working, busy with their business/busyness! In a way, it shows Asian men’s insecurity, as they think their money and status give them validation and get them women.
Yet white men are way more balanced: they understand “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”
Dating white men means going to sports events, concerts, movies, exotic trips, etc., whereas dating Asian men means the boring “dinner-and-movie” date which makes Asian women yawn.
Being in a long-term relationship with a white man means quite often there is a “date night”, while being in a long-term relationship with an Asian man often means he doesn’t need to maintain and nurture the relationship anymore.
7. White men understand women better.
Most Asian men never had the education about female psychology or women in general – they never learned any of these at school or at home.
Nevertheless, white men learned a lot about relationships since middle school, because it’s okay to have girlfriends when you are at school (and it’s completely normal and allowed). But having girlfriends is not allowed in Asian high schools, so Asian men didn’t learn it through their own experiences (don’t blame them; blame their education system, please.)
Besides, white men who were brought up by western parents witnessed the positive interaction between their parents (if the parents have had a healthy marriage): In a western family, the top priority of all relationships is the relationship between the husband and the wife.
But in a typical Asian family, the most important relationship in a family is the relationship between parents and children.
* This is what happens when a typical western man arrives at home:
He hugs his wife first, and then hugs his children.
* This is what happens when a typical Asian man arrives at home:
He hugs his children first (if children are still in kindergarten), and that’s all.
White men generally understands women’s needs better – women need to be loved; women need to be touched; women need to be adored.
8. Being with a white man makes life easier than being with an Asian man in a western country.
Let’s be honest, white men are the majority in western countries. If you are a white male, you probably have no reason for not being successful, because living in a western country as a white male gives you every resource you need in order to be successful.
Nonetheless, being a woman, an Asian in a western country is in the minority group. I certainly don’t like racism, but racism still exists to some degree, no matter I like it nor not.
In other words, if a woman, an Asian, wants to be successful in a western country, A LOT MORE EFFORTS must be made. Sorry for the capital letters, but it’s true.
I’ve seen many Asian women who are married to Asian men and they live in a western country. Life is surely not easy for them – finding employment, establishing a business, building their network….everything is harder. That’s why Asians work very hard and have to be smart in order to be successful.
Yet Asian women who are married to white men can relax a bit, because white men are already the mainstream of the society.
9. White men appreciate Asian women’s beauty.
I have an Asian female friend who used to live in Taiwan. She told me that women in Taiwan are the world’s most fashion-conscious women, because the competition is increasingly stiff in this regard – every woman wants to look the best.
I couldn’t help but wonder: Why do Asian women work so hard to look pretty?
Besides, women in South Korea are obsessed with plastic surgeries.
And honestly, at least 60% of my Asian female friends have had some plastic surgeries!
Then I realized that Asian men have very high standards when it comes to women’s beauty. Asian men don’t care about their own looks, but they require their girlfriends to look like models.
The majority of Asian men choose girlfriends based on how pretty they are.
In contrast, white men are more likely to value women’s intelligence and character traits, and they think a beautiful mind is equally important.
Many years ago, when I was with an Asian man, this was what actually happened whenever there was an important event that I must attend with him:
Let’s say the event started at 7pm. At 5pm, he would call me and say, “Did you go to the beautician’s to get your makeup and hair done?”
“Oh, I haven’t done it.” I replied.
“What?!” he became furious.
“I can do it at home by myself.” I replied.
But when my date was a white man later on, simply wearing lipstick got his frequent compliments.
Better still, I went out with a white guy who even said, “I like your long hair and your red dress. You are irresistible.” – very simple. I didn’t even wear makeup, and I didn’t get my hair done either.
10. White guys are more open-minded.
Not every Asian woman wants to have children.
So if an Asian woman doesn’t want kids, it’s highly unlikely for her to marry an Asian man, because almost every Asian man wants to start a family.
I still remember more than ten years ago when the movie “How to lose a guy in ten days” was popular, a few Asian friends asked me, “Why does the woman in the movie use marriage to scare him? Don’t men look forward to being married?”
“Western men have this fear of commitment.” I explained.
“But Asian men like getting married and have children.” They were pretty certain.
Therefore, Asian women who don’t want to have kids prefer white men who share the same vision.
Now why do Asian girls like white guys has been explained very clearly, so you are equipped with the knowledge and understanding of the interracial relationship that you desire.
(Disclaimer: The author has no intention to put down Asian men in this article, so please regard certain comments as humor; the author is just pointing out white men’s strengths in this piece, thereby showing you the reasons why do Asian girls like white guys. The author has also pointed out Asian men’s strengths in other articles.)
(Jade Seashell is a creativity adviser and seduction strategist. She regularly writes at www.jadeseashell.com)
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My current boyfriend is Filipino, but he is one of the very few Asian men I’ve dated.
Growing up, I lived in a predominantly white town, which was one reason that I didn’t date many Asian men—there just weren’t many around to begin with. But it was also partially about me. During my teens and early 20s, I was vehemently against dating Asian guys. When friends tried to pair me up with the one Chinese guy in elementary school, as if we were meant to be because I was the only Chinese girl, I quickly became annoyed. And in high school, I very clearly remember a bunch of guys trying to introduce me to their Asian friend while I was waiting for the bus after school one day. I scoffed and walked away, irritated at the unspoken expectation that I should to stick to my own race.
Now, I can see that I was surrounded by many, many problematic messages about the desirability of Asian men (or lack thereof), which in turn led me to believe that they were socially awkward, passive, unattractive—and therefore not dateable. But I also thought being paired with an Asian guy would make me seem more Asian, which I definitely did not want. Being with a white guy felt like stepping stone to being less different, or like it would make me more like the white girls I wanted to be like.
Asian men have a long history of being desexualized
As The Huffington Post notes, ugly cultural tropes around Asian men and attractiveness actually stem from racist legislation. In the 1800s, when the first Asian immigrants came to America, they were subjected to a series of xenophobic laws that stripped them of many rights that signify manhood, such as property ownership, job opportunities (most were forced into more “feminine” job, such as cooks, dishwashers and laundrymen) and the ability to marry freely (the Chinese Exclusion Act of 1882 made the possibility of Asian men finding Asian brides much harder, but anti-miscegenation laws also made it illegal for them to marry white women).
Then, of course, Hollywood and pop culture reinforced this idea. Before Crazy Rich Asians, Fresh Off the Boat and Kim’s Convenience, there wasn’t much Asian representation on-screen. And even after the success of these game-changing movies and television shows, there is still room for much more Asian representation in media. We’ve made some progress since Gedde Watanabe played Long Duk Dong in Sixteen Candles, but East Asian men are still rare in movies or on TV, and they are still most often portrayed as soft-spoken nerds that women don’t find desirable (think Matthew Moy’s character Han in 2 Broke Girls). Even when they’re depicted as strong fighters or martial artists, they still don’t get the girl (remember Jet Li’s character Han Sing—yes, another Han—in Romeo Must Die?).
“Every Asian-American man knows what the dominant culture has to say about us,” celebrity restaurateur, television host and Fresh off the Boat author Eddie Huang wrote in an op-ed for the New York Times. “We count good, we bow well, we are technologically proficient, we’re naturally subordinate, our male anatomy is the size of a thumb drive and we could never in a thousand millenniums be a threat to steal your girl… The structural emasculation of Asian men in all forms of media became a self-fulfilling prophecy that produced an actual abhorrence to Asian men in the real world.”
Huang’s not wrong. A 2014 OkCupid study concluded that women find Asian men less desirable than other men on the app. A speed-dating study conducted at Columbia University showed that Asian men had the most difficulty getting a second date. And “No Asians” is still a common line seen on dating apps, particularly in the gay community.
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These stereotypes hurt Asian men—and Asian women
It’s even on daytime TV. Back in January, I saw a clip surface online of Canadian actor Simu Liu on CTV’s The Social. As the show’s hosts began to talk about sexual stereotypes, the Kim’s Convenience star jumped into offer his perspective as an Asian man. But as he did so, the studio audience began to laugh.
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He used the opportunity to (gently) call them out, saying, “Imagine being a kid growing up and having none of the girls want to date you [because of these types of stereotypes].”
But months later, Liu hadn’t forgotten how it felt to hear the audience laugh in that moment. “It honestly felt so surreal. I felt immediate shock that the audience felt like it was OK to laugh at what I said when all I wanted to do was acknowledge that sexual stereotypes are harmful and untrue,” he says.
Liu points to his own experience—when he was younger, he thought being Asian was literally the worst thing that ever happened to him. “I felt just totally and utterly castrated and undatable,” he says. “It took a very long time for me to learn to love myself and where I came from, but I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t still affect me today.”
And the stereotypes aren’t just harmful for Asian men; they affect Asian women, too. Some Asian men have started harassing Asian women for marrying non-Asian men, because to them, “marrying out” perpetuates the stereotype that Asian men are undesirable. As author Celeste Ng writes in a piece for The Cut, “[These ‘Asian incels’] believe they’re fighting a constant battle against a culture that’s out to get them… In their messages, these harassers often claim Asian women don’t care about the issues facing Asian men, or even that they believe the stereotypes.”
And of course, my rejection of Asian men didn’t just harm them. It affected me, too.
I wasn’t attracted to Asian men because of my own insecurities
I refused to date Asian guys because of my own issues with my cultural background. Growing up, I was surrounded by white people—in school, on TV, in magazines and in advertisements. I felt like an outsider, so much that I didn’t want to be associated or paired with anyone who reminded me of my non-whiteness—not friends, and definitely not boyfriends. I did date an Asian guy for two years in university, but shortly after we broke up, I went right back to dating non-Asian men. No one in my friend group was Asian and that didn’t just influence my tastes, it also affected my identity.
When I entered my mid-20s, though, things started to change. As I spent more time with my elders and became more comfortable in my own skin, I became more and more proud of my Chinese roots. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that, as I (gradually) began to embrace my ethnicity, I also began viewing Asian men as more attractive. Of course, the internet and social media helped, since I was exposed to Asian guys who weren’t at all like the stereotypes I saw on TV or in the movies. They were really attractive due to their fashion sense, their talents (ahem… I always had a soft spot for popular YouTube singers like Gabe Bondoc and Jeremy Passion and dancers like Marko Germar or Hokuto ‘Hok’ Konishi from So You Think You Can Dance), or yes, their six-packs—something I’d never seen on Asian men before.
But as I experienced more serious relationships with non-Asian men, particularly Caucasian men, I realized how difficult it was to relate to them on a cultural level. They didn’t understand my family values and were often weirded out by traditional Chinese cuisine. And I always felt like an outsider being the only Asian girl among a bunch of white people when visiting said boyfriends’ families.
But honestly? Asian men are hot
In hindsight, I regret all those years I spent rejecting Asian men. I know I missed out on a lot of great guys. But most of all, I feel ashamed that I resented my own race so much, that I internalized such problematic ideas about Asian men.
Thankfully, in realizing my own worth and importance as a Chinese-Canadian woman, I’ve been able to break down the barriers that once prevented me from viewing Asian men as attractive and dateable. I now feel a huge sense of pride when I see Asian men like Henry Golding, Manny Jacinto, Godfrey Gao and Liu regarded as sex symbols and cheer internally when I see not just Asian women, but women of all races fawn over them.
It’s not about being shallow. It’s that Asian men are so much more than the old stereotypes used to describe them—and it’s about damn time we all begin to realize this.
Related:
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Henry Golding Says He’d be Down for a Rom-Com with Kim’s Convenience’s Simu Liu
“Crazy Rich Asians Isn’t Just a Movie—It’s a Sign That I Matter, Too”